You’re not confused. You’re tired of being asked to prove it.
Virtual, trauma-informed therapy for bisexual and pansexual people throughout New York State.
You might relate if you:
In your identity and visibility
Feel invisible when you’re partnered with someone of a different gender
Are tired of being “too queer” for straight spaces and “not queer enough” for queer ones
Feel pressure to prove your identity through your dating history, your style, or who you’re with
Have to come out again with every new partner, friend group, or job
Feel guilt about passing as straight, or about the safety and ease that comes with it
Are tired of the jokes, the questions, and the “so are you actually into...?” conversations
In your relationships
Have a partner who is secure on the surface but quietly worries you’ll leave for someone of a different gender
Are tired of hearing “I just worry you’ll get bored,” or being assumed to cheat
Are dating in a world that treats you as a phase, a fetish, or a tourist
Feel pushed to hide parts of your attraction to keep a partner comfortable
Have an old wound, from family or earlier relationships, that shows up with a new partner
In your family and community
Have a family that treats it as a phase, or says “just don’t bring it up”
Are out to some people and not others, and keeping track of it takes real energy
Feel lonely, even though you have queer friends, because your experience gets dismissed there too
Have been told you have “straight privilege,” and carry both the truth in that and the cost of being doubted
Carry anger, grief, or exhaustion that you aren’t sure you’re allowed to feel
You know who you are, and you’ve known for a while. What wears you down is everyone else’s math: being read as straight when you’re with one partner and gay when you’re with another, then “not queer enough” in the very spaces that should feel like home. You’ve probably come out more times than you can count, and every new partner or coworker means doing it again. Therapy here doesn’t question your identity or ask you to defend it. It’s the starting point, and we work with the rest of your life.
I’m Gina Sacino, MS, LCAT, a Licensed Creative Arts Therapist in Rochester, NY, providing virtual therapy throughout New York State.
Therapy for bisexual people
You don’t need to explain yourself here. We make room for your relationships, your family, and the patterns that have shaped them, with your identity as a given.
Therapy for pansexual people
Your attraction isn’t a trend or a debate topic. We spend our time on what’s yours.
Therapy for coming out, again and again
Coming out isn’t one event, and for you it never stops. We look at the toll of repeating it and how to decide who gets what, and when.
Therapy for bi and pan relationships
Partners may carry their own insecurities about your identity. We work on communication, trust, and being fully seen in a relationship.
Therapy for feeling like you don’t belong anywhere
Not fitting neatly into straight or queer spaces is lonely. We look at what belonging could look like for you.
What we do in session
I’m warm, direct, and relational, with a little humor, and we go at your pace. Together we:
Take your identity as given, and spend our time on the rest of your life
Look at the roles you learned in your family and how they show up in your relationships now
Work through the exhaustion of being doubted, and any anger, grief, or guilt that comes with it
Talk through how and when to come out, without pressure either way
Practice saying what you need in a relationship, and handling what follows
Work with the body as well as the story, using a trauma-informed and creative approach
Build self-trust, and the kind of belonging that doesn’t require proving anything
What feeling better can look like
You don’t have to prove your identity to anyone. You feel secure in who you are in any room and with any partner. You can be close to someone without managing their fears. You have people around you who see you, and your needs count as much as everyone else’s.